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@BShark I’d make sure the dr knows what happened!
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@BShark Wishing the best for you and your family
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@BShark what was the medicine? if the medicine was a pain pill/narcotic, it is to help lessen his pain with a potential for constipation, which could cause another blockage. He should have been given something along with it to prevent the constipation side effect. If he was receiving the pain medicine while hospitalized and was having normal BM’s once the bowels started working again, then the likelihood of a blockage is low. You should have been told about that potential side effect though before being discharged. Unfortunately, discharge instructions, too often, are not as thorough as they should be. This occurs because of staffing shortages, staff apathy, and the patient wanting to get out of the hospital hours, if not days, before it occurs.
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@BShark what was the medicine? if the medicine was a pain pill/narcotic, it is to help lessen his pain with a potential for constipation, which could cause another blockage. He should have been given something along with it to prevent the constipation side effect. If he was receiving the pain medicine while hospitalized and was having normal BM’s once the bowels started working again, then the likelihood of a blockage is low. You should have been told about that potential side effect though before being discharged. Unfortunately, discharge instructions, too often, are not as thorough as they should be. This occurs because of staffing shortages, staff apathy, and the patient wanting to get out of the hospital hours, if not days, before it occurs.
He did not receive the medicine until after discharge as far as I know. Though I will say I don’t know exactly what they were giving him while he was in there. I’m doing what I can but I can only stand being in and around hospitals so often, that I wasn’t there a ton during those 10 days. I did visit several times and talk to the nurses etc… This is stage 4 colon cancer so normal bms don’t really exist anymore.
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Back on the chemo grind next week
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Good luck man.
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@benshawks08 not looking great lately. He doesn’t want to eat
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Don’t give up hope! He needs you. I know it’s hard. 🫶 what’s the dr say? I’m so sorry!
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Chemo is tuff.
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@Crimsonorblue22 said in I'm Back:
what’s the dr say? I’m so sorry!
Not really any answers at this point. Is what it is, just have to try to keep living. Last few days mostly better again but his weight is down a lot since the blockage. Needs to try and get it up but eating potentially makes him feel much worse so he often does not want to.
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@BShark Every case is different, and listen to the doctors, but your “cure is as bad as the disease” comment made me remember one of my uncles. He suffered with prostrate cancer and went through all the procedures - chemo, radiation, etc. When he was on death’s doorstep he said no more “treatment”. He lived another relatively good 12 years.
If you’re inclined, you’re already praying. If not, a bunch of us are praying for you, for your brother. Hang in there.
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He passed peacefully today.
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@BShark oh no! Wasn’t ready for that. I’m so sad for you and your mom.
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So sorry for your loss. Do what brings you comfort. We’ll be here when you want us.
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Sorry BShark
Praying for you in this tough time
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He passed peacefully today.
Im so sorry. We are all here for you when you need
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Take as much time as you need. Hoping the best for you and your family
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I’m sorry to hear this and you have my deepest condolences. Stay strong.
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Man, I’m so sorry @BShark
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So sorry to hear that man.
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Thanks everyone. He’d want nothing more than a HAWKS victory against Missouri. We had some good final words several days ago, it really helped me be at peace knowing he was. Last few days were more or less nonverbal.
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Sorry to hear brother, I hope you can find peace in knowing he is now free from the pain and the constraints of his body. When you lose someone close to you, it never gets better. You will just learn how to go on without them.
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I am sure he passed feeling far more at peace due to your love and the protection you gave him. Not everyone has that. Be good to yourself. I aspire to be as caring as you.
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@BShark - Very sorry for your loss. It’s great, though, that you had that conversation. It will stay with you forever.
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@mayjay well said!🫶
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@BShark I’m really sorry to hear that, my friend. Remember that death is not the enemy, it’s going to happen to us all eventually. Passing peacefully is a blessing. I hope you and your family will find peace soon.
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@BShark I hope you and your family find solace in this time of loss.
I am reminded of this quote, which has helped me process intense emotions during loss: “What is grief, if not love persevering?”
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Oh no. How sad. So sorry @BShark
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I am sorry to hear of your brother’s passing. Thank you for sharing his life and the struggles you have endured for him. Our struggles reveal the character of a person. Based upon what you have shared, you are top notch. May you find peace in knowing that his suffering has ended.
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Some of you are making me tear up again. Thank you for the kind words.
@patoh3 I just did what I could. I’m trying to think of how to explain something without it feeling disparaging about him when it’s not my intent. I tried to help a bit more if anything, but he made his own decisions regarding a lot of things. All I would want anyone to do for me is honor my wishes respectfully, so that’s what I did with him and this situation.
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@BShark running into some of that too, my mom is very stubborn and frail and not following any safety guidance from doctors or my brother who is a physical therapist. In the end, we have to let people make their own choices. She will never go to a home and some day she will have another major issue with the way her house is arranged and thats ok. Hang in there man.
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Shark is the goat so glad to see him get this type of love in a tough time.
